Before working with Bia Bliss, Norman tried to overcome his porn habit for decades, with sporadic success.
Norman previously worked with several therapists, counsellors and 12-step program groups in the US, UK and Australia over the years, with short-term success, only to slip into a deeper hole after a few days.
Masturbation was controlling Norman’s life. He felt that he was wasting his life away because he spent so much time and energy thinking about an outlet for his sexual urges.
Norman’s inability to overcome this challenge brought major friction to his relationship with his wife of 35 years. She lost trust in him and the relationship.
Overall, this left him feeling guilty, ashamed, unlovable and not wanting to be seen, which led to another cycle of compulsive porn binge, since Norman was using masturbation to self-soothe and keeping him trapped in the infinity loop (stress> > porn > dopamine hit > shame, guilt > stress)!
Within a couple of weeks of working together, Norman went from compulsively thinking about porn and binging every day for at least 30 minutes, to not watching porn every day and gradually achieving 12-14-16 and 30 consecutive days porn-free, with one slip in-between every time.
Norman’s relationship with his wife is on the mend, and their bond is now stronger since he is no longer spending most of his time and energy thinking about porn and masturbation. They get to enjoy quality time together in a way that is exciting and satisfying for both, and everyone’s needs are met.
Norman feels more in control of his sexual desires. Life feels more spacious since he no longer spends several hours a week watching porn or thinking about an outlet for his sexual urges.
Norman enjoyed working with me so much that he also joined the Pleasure Masterclass Group Coaching Program to support other men to change their relationship with porn.
We created a 12-week customized road map for Norman. Each week a bite-size tool or exercise was introduced, based on Norman’s needs.
We identified Norman’s unconscious patterns that led him into the infinity loop (stress> > porn > dopamine hit > shame, guilt > stress) keeping him stuck there for decades.
Norman learned the Pleasure Framework™ and was able to transition from compulsively watching porn and acting out on his sexual desires, to having a healthier relationship with his sexual energy.
He learned how to masturbate without porn or fantasy, to be more relaxed, at ease, and confident in his own skin, no longer wasting mental energy thinking about his sexual desires, and repaired the connection with his wife.
Ever since our work together, Norman experiences pleasure in a guilt and shame-free way. He now gets to choose if and when to watch porn and has a myriad of tools at his disposal to keep him on track.
“I cannot express the depth of my gratitude for how Bia Bliss has coached me to success, because I now feel mostly free, powerful and positive, and if I don’t feel in control, I know what to do and how to come back to choice, thanks to Bia’s Pleasure Framework™.” ~ Norman